Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Another source talks about Kevin and Britney

Friends doubt Kevin would reconcile with Britney
Wednesday, February 28
4:10 p.m. EST

Since Britney Spears filed for divorce from Kevin Federline in November, her life has gone into a tailspin. But although Kevin has been supportive of her rehabilitation at Promises in Malibu - he even brought their sons Sean Preston and Jayden to visit her on February 24 - an insider close to Kevin tells In Touch that he's not interested in reconciliation. "Kevin has a lot of feelings for Britney, but the main thing is that he wants his sons to have a healthy mom," the friend says. "That's so much more important to him than getting back together with her. He isn't in love with her anymore. He feels sorry for her and wants to get her better."

Source: intouchweekly.hollywood.com

MTV: Mark Wahlberg article mentions Kevin

Imagine Kevin Federline announcing he wanted to be an actor. Consider the ridicule, the embarrassment, the doors slammed in his face — and then you might begin to understand where "Marky" Mark Wahlberg found himself in 1994.

More than a decade later, he's the producer of HBO's hit show "Entourage," one of Hollywood's top leading men and an awards-season darling thanks to a breakthrough performance in Martin Scorsese's Oscar-winning "The Departed." With the respect of Hollywood finally in his hip pocket, and the sniper-on-the-run flick "Shooter" on its way into theaters, Wahlberg sat down with MTV News to discuss his love of '70s tough guys and kicking butt at the local Starbucks.

Source: mtv.com

People and US Weekly talk about Kevin and Britney

From people.com:

Kevin Federline Gives Britney Spears an Ultimatum
WEDNESDAY FEBRUARY 28, 2007 09:20 AM EST

Britney Spears caused a case of mass whiplash when she bolted from rehab after less than 24 hours – then checked back in days later. The reason for the quick turnaround? An ultimatum from Kevin Federline, a source tells PEOPLE.

Upset by the news that Spears had checked out of Promises in Malibu on Wednesday, Federline scheduled an emergency hearing to seek physical and legal custody of their sons Sean Preston, 18 months, and Jayden James, 6 months, says a source.

Ultimately, Federline, 28, gave his estranged wife a choice: Either she got back into Promises that night or Federline would go to court in the morning, says the source.

(Spears, 25, had since January had custody of the boys, with visitation for Federline, thanks to a temporary court order issued after she filed for divorce in November.)

At about 7 p.m. that night, Spears, driven by a friend, showed up outside Federline's home in Tarzana, Calif. – followed by some 20 paparazzi. Federline failed to appear, so she left.

When a photographer followed her to a gas station, she became enraged and began whacking his SUV with an umbrella. Later that night Spears's mother, Lynne, 51, who had flown in from her home in Kentwood, La., to be near her daughter and grandsons, took Spears back to Promises. Says a friend of Federline's: "Britney scared everyone real bad."

On Friday Federline – who, sources say, also played a role in persuading Spears to enter rehab in the first place – spent an hour visiting his ex at Promises; the next evening he also brought the boys, and they were joined by Lynne.

"Kevin is working closely with Lynne to let Britney know how serious it is that she gets help," says one family friend. A source close to Federline notes that "Kevin loves Britney ... nothing has changed about that."

Right now the boys are "being taken care of by Kevin," says a source. "Lynne is helping." Eventually, says a Spears family friend, Federline, who will turn 29 this month, "would like [Britney] to have the kids because he thinks she is a good mother."

But to make that happen will require hard work. A typical stay at Promises lasts 45 days – and Spears "is getting no special treatment," says her manager Larry Rudolph. "She has a regular room, a regular routine. She is doing exceptionally well."

From usmagazine.com:

Kevin's Side of the Story
Wednesday February 28, 2007

Britney Spears’s current rehab stint has already had one positive outcome -- Kevin Federline's transformation into Super Dad.

A source close to the former back-up dancer says he's currently put his life on hold while he works overtime to care for his two sons (Sean Preston, 17 months, and 5-month-old Jayden James) and bring his family back together.

“He’s devastated and cries all the time,” a source close to Federline, 28, tells Us. “Kevin wants to get back together with her. He is her biggest supporter."

The former Mr. Spears may be Mr. Responsible now, but he wasn’t always the picture of perfect fatherdom. In the days before Sean Preston was born, Federline was seen partying and smoking marijuana in L.A. and Las Vegas.

But his experiences with Spears seems to have transformed him. And he might be helping the pop star get back on track, too.

It was at least partially at his urging that Spears entered rehab at the Crossroads Center on the island of Antigua. And when she checked out a day later, Federline and Spears’s mom, Lynne, took the drastic step of taking her children away from her. Federline reportedly told her she couldn’t see her sons again until she went to rehab.

It’s unclear how Brit will fare in all this, but one thing is clear: K-Fed is emerging as much more than a punchline for late night TV fodder.

Video: E! News discuss Kevin and Britney


Source: Extra TV - Feb 27th, britney.cl
YouTube link

More news on what Shar Jackson has been up to

Shar gets back in shape... with a little help!
Wednesday, February 28
10:15 a.m. EST

While Britney Spears is struggling, Kevin Federline's other ex, Shar Jackson, is looking fabulous, thanks to some help from a Long Beach, Calif., plastic surgeon. "Shar had liposuction at Cosmetic Care in September and then again over the holidays," says an insider. "She had another treatment a few weeks ago." The pal says Shar, 30, had the work on her tummy and jawline.

Shar, who's the mother of Kevin's older children, Kori, 4, and Kaleb, 2, admits she was ready to start feeling good about herself again. "I have had four children and was not happy with my body," the former Moesha actress tells In Touch. "I feel good about it and am busy recovering right now. And yes, it hurts a lot."

Source: intouchweekly.hollywood.com

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

Shar speaks, and Jayden meets his half-brother and half-sister

Shar Jackson, Kevin Federline's ex-girlfriend, and mother of two of his children, is speaking out to squash rumors that she and Federline are secretely dating again. Folks got suspicious when Jackson was spotted visiting Kevin's home this past weekend. In an exclusive statement to Usmagazine.com, Jackson's rep, Juliette Harris, said:

"Shar Jackson will continue to maintain the necessary relationship with Kevin that is in the best interest of raising their two children. This weekend Shar and Kevin visited together with the four children, and that this was the first time that all four children met. Any insinuation that she is involved with [Kevin and Britney's] problems or break up in any way is preposterous. She has always been supportive of Kevin’s choices, both publicly and privately. Shar refuses to be pulled into their relationship and will not comment further on any personal matters."

Source: usmagazine.com

X17: Official looking woman pays a visit

An official looking woman pays a visit to Kevin's house yesterday, and a new vehical is delivered.


Source: x17online.com

Monday, February 26, 2007

Sources talk to E! about Kevin and Britney

A source close to Federline told E! Online that he had shared his belief with friends that Spears changed dramatically after she became a mother.

"He feels like Britney never was the same after she had their kids," the source said. "Even after the first baby, she had wild mood swings and her temper would go off at the drop of a hat.

"It got worse after her second pregnancy. Kevin didn't want another baby so soon, not because he didn't want more kids, but because her temper was so unstable when she was pregnant," the source continued. "After she came home from the hospital the second time, she just seemed really unhappy all of the time. He said, 'Nothing made her happy anymore. She was just angry or sad all the time.'"

Experts have said that Spears' recent spate of erratic behavior could have been motivated by postpartum depression, which can set in anytime during the first year after birth and affects up to 80 percent of new mothers.

...

Kevin Federline is standing by his former woman.

The would-be rapper paid a visit to his estranged wife in rehab on Saturday with the couple's two sons, 17-month-old Sean Preston and 5-month-old Jayden James in tow, People reports. (According to Us Weekly, it was Spears' mom, Lynne, who brought the kids.)

It was Federline's second visit to Promises since Spears reentered the treatment facility last Wednesday.

He previously visited Spears on Friday, bringing her cigarettes and photographs of their children, a source told E! News.

Source: eonline.com

Sunday, February 25, 2007

Can you handle Kevin and Britney's truth?

Alison's note:

... because there are people desperately trying to tell us. All of you Britney fans out there who have said they would stick with Britney no matter what, here's your chance to prove it.



Here are some anonymous comments from britneyexperts.com:

by stop saying that @ 25 Feb 2007 04:30 pm
he did not go out and party every night he was with britney, Maybe at most once a week he went to a club but that was usually for WORK you friggin idots who dont work in the music industry don't udnerstand how these things work.

He has been around his kids every single day since they were born. He went to Las Vegas 3 times. 3 TIMES!! and a couple times were with Britney and the kids.

You idiots need to stop repeating the same lies over and over.

...

by I do know @ 25 Feb 2007 04:44 pm
actually i do know
I am ALOT closer to this situation that most of you

...

by kevin @ 25 Feb 2007 04:51 pm
IS BEING A MAN AND TAKING CARE OF HIS BUSINESS HERE.

everyone else should shut the hell up cuz no one KNOWS how their relationship is behind closed doors.

there is entertainer kevin and kevin the human being.

you go kevin !!

...

by stop hurting Britney @ 25 Feb 2007 04:59 pm
Its sad that Britney fans dont believe she did drugs and is a mess because HER FANS are the biggest reason she is the way she is, because people wont let her be the REAL BRITNEY that's the MAJOR reason she turns to drugs again and again

The real britney likes to experiment with drugs and experiment with lesbianism
Her fans won't let her be the REAL her

Wouldn't it be shocking to you all if she ASKED Jason and Isaac to tell the world the truth, so that people would stop having her on this huge pedestal?
And then she sees that no one believes the TRUTH or no one wants to accept the TRUTH and it makes her feel WORSE
it makes her feel inside that the public can't handle who she really is

people!
get out of denial

its better for britney if you get out of denial

stop hurting Britney by not believing the truth about her!


And comments from People - Kevin visits Britney again, this time with the kids:

In The Know
said...
You guys have NO idea whats going on in this situation

you have no idea how kevin was in regards to his children when he and Britney were not seperated
you have no idea what business he was taking care of when he would go out to clubs
Kevin is NOT mentally unstable

you have no idea how much he helped britney when they were together
you just have no idea
so you should stop writing
...

Anonymous said...

I am quite aware that there are always going to be people who will believe the worst about Kevin.

That can't be helped.

He will never stand up for himself publicly, he has too much going on to really care what people who don't know him think about him.

However taht does not mean that it does not affect his family and friends to read the horrible names that people call him. People who have no clue of what he is about.

Kevin is not greedy, very far from it. In fact you would be surprised at the gifts/ bribed that he's turned down.
You'd also be surprised at the amount of gifts hes returned HIMSELF because he didnt want the gift being held over his head.

Unfortunately it took him some time to realize that these gifts were attempts to manipulate him.

By the time it really sunk in that these gifts were used as manipulation attempts, people were already accusing him of using britney for money. FAR FROM IT.

Contrary to what has been printed in the media, he still had access to quite a bit of money and gifts AFTER the divorce was files and he wanted nothing to do with it. He said he would make his own money and buy things he could afford himself that no one could use to hold over his head.

The whole spousal support and full custody issues are completely legal maneuvers. Lawyers see green more often than their clients do. The divorce courts are full of people whose lawyers have convinced them that the RIGHT thing to do for their children is to request spousal support. Both male and female divorcees.

In fact a lawyer can convince a client that if he doesnt ask for spousal support it can be used against him as a judge may not see his own seperate finances as being enough to care for 2 children

Kevin loves his children and would never use them as "lottery tickets" as so many Britney fans are quick to accuse him of.

In fact Kevin complained several times during his marriage that his wife was using the children as posessions and that he didnt agree with the way she used and treated the children like they were a prized toy that she could throw in the closet when she was done playing with. He was VERY upset about the instability that she displayed around them. He knows that she loves the kids but because of her mental and emotional state, she just is not capable of beign a single parent and it bothered him immensely that she would file for sole custody knowing she does not have the tools psychologically to be a sole parent.

Kevin wants his kids to grow up normal and have a normal family and not have to start off life with all this disfuntion.

These are the things that are stressing him out and really affect him.

You should see this man cry over his children before you go and state things about him that you have NO idea about.

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Anonymous said...

It has always bothered me that people can be so insensitive toward others. The name calling (both of Kevin and Britney by the different fan sides) is disturbing. Think about these people (not the public persona but the personal and private one) and how they and their families feel hearing such awful things about them, Kevin especially because he is the one who has taken the most hits. As a mother I have to say that it would hurt me so much to have someone say such hurtful things about my child. You may not like the man but that does not give you the right to say such mean and hurtful things about him. Didn't your parents ever teach you that if you have nothing good to say, don't say anything? I know we are all free to express our opinions and you can do that without the name calling. So you don't like his music, fine say that and move on without being hateful. How would you feel if you were in his shoes taking all the hits - would you be able to stand proud like Kevin?


This last comment is from someone at usmagazine.com. I don't think they necessarily are close to the situation, I just like the comment:

Deb said...

Kevin looked bad because the media wanted to make him look like an ass. We all fell for it. Think about how they control how we feel about a person....Woody Allen married his daugher, that was OK. Jerry Seinfield met his unemployed wife while she was on HER honeymoon, Robin Williams married his babysitter, Nic Cage is with a buy me drinkie girl he met at a karoke bar where she worked, MAtt Damon married a waitress, Julia Roberts a camera man, JLo once married a back up dancer....But Kevin they crucified him from day 1.

People - Kevin visits Britney again, this time with the kids

Children Visit Britney Spears in Rehab
SUNDAY FEBRUARY 25, 2007 10:00 AM EST
By Marisa Laudadio and Lycia Naff

Britney Spears saw her children during a weekend visit to Promises, PEOPLE has learned.

Estranged husband Kevin Federline brought their boys, Sean Preston, 17 months, and Jayden, 5 months, to the Malibu rehab center Saturday evening, a source says.

"The kids are his No. 1 priority and they always have been," the source says. "He's so stressed out right now. He only wants the best for Britney and the kids."

This was the second time Federline has visited his estranged wife. He also went to Promises on Friday without the children.

Spears 25, voluntarily checked herself into the residential rehab center on Feb. 20, left the next morning, then returned Thursday night.

The singer's father, Jamie Spears, 54, told FOX News from his home in Louisiana that his daughter is "a sick little girl. ... We're just trying to take care of her."

Source: people.com

Happier times... one year ago

Kevin Federline being interviewed by Beijing Music Radio at the Grammys in February, 2006.



Thanks Coach!

Saturday, February 24, 2007

It's time to let her go...

Alison's note:

On New Year's Eve, 2004, 3 months after her wedding to Kevin, Britney unexpectedly called the KISS FM radio station and, without talking to her record label first, told the radio station she immediately wanted to talk to them about her new album. During her interview, she said the album was half done and that it would be named "Original Doll", to be released late Spring or early Summer of 2005. Her first single would be called "Mona Lisa" and a demo was played with the below lyrics. She became pregnant in January, 2005 and never released "Original Doll", although she did release a final version of "Mona Lisa" on the "Chaotic" DVD/CD along with some other songs. Some of the lyrics were changed in the final version, for example "It's time to let her go, 'cause she's gone" became "She wants you to know, she's been cloned." Somehow, I think what she was really trying to tell us is in the demo version of "Mona Lisa". Whether she stills feels this way is hard to say. But this song sure says a lot more to me now than it did when I first heard it.

Ladies and gentleman I've got a little story to tell
About Mona Lisa, and how she suddenly fell
See everyone knew her, they knew her oh so well
Now I am taking over to release her from her spell

She's unforgettable
She was a legend though
It's kind of pitiful that she's gone

It's kind of incredible
She's so unpredictable
It's time to let her go
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone

She was taken under, drowning in her sea
Running like an angel, she was crying but could not see (oh no)
See everyone's watching as she starts to fall
Now don't have a breakdown, you will hit the freakin' wall

She's unforgettable
She was a legend though
It's kind of pitiful that she's gone

It's kind of incredible
She's so unpredictable
It's time to let her go
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone

Now ladies does that make you cry
Now fellows you have to say good-bye
'Cause Mona Lisa's got to fly
Everyone can we have a moment of silence, right here.

God

She's unforgettable
She was a legend though
It's kind of pitiful that she's gone

It's kind of incredible
She's so unpredictable
It's time to let her go
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone

She's unforgettable
She was a legend though
It's kind of pitiful that she's gone

It's kind of incredible
She's so unpredictable
It's time to let her go
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone
'Cause she's gone...

Was Kevin the One Keeping Britney Together?

From x17online.com:

When Britney first hooked up with Kevin Federline, I think everyone questioned the backup dancer’s intentions. Afterall, he began seeing Britney while still in a relationship with girlfriend Shar Jackson, the mother of his daughter, Kori, who was several months pregnant with the couples’ second child! Over the next few years, Brit’s fans became more and more concerned that Kevin was just using her when they saw the amount of “things” Britney’s unemployed hubby was acquiring for himself – or so it seemed.

Sources close to the former couple have revealed to X17 that Kevin was actually the only one in Britney’s life who ever said “no” to her and suggest that it was one of the reasons she was so attracted to him in the first place, and possibly why she’s gotten so out of control without him! With no one to rein her in (she recently fired her entire staff), Britney seems to have gone over the edge. In fact, a possible threat from Kevin regarding their children, seems to be the only thing to get her to commit to rehab – hopefully for good! Could it be true that while everyone was calling Kevin a loser, he was actually the more "with-it" half of the couple???

Britney’s fans have never given up on her, and everyone here at X17 is hoping that her current commitment to rehab is the first step on the road to recovery, and back to being the Britney we all know and love!

From comment section of similar article at TMZ.com:

"He just got caught up and manipulated" by the press and Spears' camp." - Jason Alexander (Britney's ex husband # 1)

I agree with Jason about Spears' camp spinning negative stories about Kevin to keep her on top. They did the same thing to Shar (Kevin's ex fiance) when Britney was found out to be the other woman. At one point Spears' camp tried to destroy Justin but, his people turned it around. Maybe this time it's difficult for Britney's people to smear Kevin's name because of Britney's outrageous behavior. So now Britney's family is using Kevin to save Britney from her destructive self. I'm sure once Britney is back on her feet, Spears' family will stab Kevin in the back.

Because of Britney's parents poor parenting skills, Britney wasn't raised to be a strong independent woman. They didn't make it a top priority to balance her pop star career and stable family life. Rumor has it that her mom use to be physically violence with her ex husband. And that's why Britney use to smack Kevin around. This explains why Kevin would go clubbing to burn off some steam. Does anyone remember how Britney reacted when Kevin told her no about something. She wanted to punch one of her bodyguards in the face. She flat out asked the guy, during a sparing practice if she good to burn off some steam. He just chuckled out of shock and disgust.

Britney's chaotic life

Alison's note:

Before reading the below article, please read:
- Felicia's letter to Ruben
- Friend talks about Felicia
- Is someone trying to tell us the truth?

The follow editorial appeared on That Other Blog yesterday, run by Ruben Garay, who has had connections with Britney's management, friends, and family for some time now. It is written by an anonymous source, by someone with 20 years in the industry who has been where Britney is. It's a long letter, and I hope you find it as insightful as I did.

CHAOTIC
Written by Anonymous Contributor

It’s getting’ hectic in here
It’s getting’ Chaotic
I’m rocking and rollin’
No stoppin’
We goin’ until it’s over….

Words don’t ring truer. Chaotic. The double entendre’ applicable here doesn’t escape me. It was me. I’ve been to the top of the mountain, and to the depths of hell. The entire journey, “Chaotic.” While witnessing the unfolding and unraveling of the life of one of music’s once reigning Queen of Pop, I stand afar yet so close to what I see. While of course the media spins it’s spin, the artists spin theirs, the other associated parties spin theirs, the spinning makes one dizzier than the many of the substances themselves. While I’m certainly no expert on this topic, I fail to believe that any one person is. Each person and their issues vary so vastly, and usually are so intertwined and deeply rooted, that it’s physically impossible to coin anyone “an expert” in the field. I don’t buy it, I don’t believe it, and I don’t accept it. This type of illness does not equate to the “flu”. It’s not a clogged artery. It’s a deep maze and puzzle of each individuals lives, perceptions, realities, abilities, events, non events, esteem, lack of esteem, acceptance, rejection, denial, admittance, environment, stress, and yes, even genetics…the list is endless and the combinations far too many for any human to possibly be anything than a self proclaimed “expert”. Anyone who tells you otherwise, in my opinion, run.

It Begins

With those words being said, I can only speak of my experiences. Ones that only by the grace of a higher power than me empowered me on a daily basis to be blessed that yesterday wasn’t the day I returned to my past. Ones that when called to the aid of another, gave me the strength and ability to reach a hand out to someone whom felt there wasn’t a hand in sight. Ones that when there was a feeling of being unloved and dismissed, gave me the ability to love without judgment and acknowledge what was being “dismissed”.

I’ve seen a lot in my life, and more importantly, undoubtedly too much of this particular arena in my 20 years in this industry. Top name celebrities crumble under the stress and pressure, curled up in the corner crying desperately for their mother. I’ve seen them so high, they sit in the kitchen sink because “there’s someone outside”, I’ve seen them covered in urine, vomit, blood, and I’ve even seen them in their attic with a BB gun shooting anyone trying to get them because “aliens are coming through the window”. Nyquil as a cocktail, and a needle for dessert. Ive made arrangements for one particular “celebrated individual” whom had a notorious reputation inside the business and out as a drunk, had no issues publically being one, and was frequently carried/falling out of numerous Hollywood hotspots. While this individual had zero issues with the above behavior, they went to great lengths to cover up the fact they were actually , finally, commiting to get help. Confused? Yeah. Me too. I’ve also seen people just like you and me, everyday people, in the exact same ways. We are ALL human. Some have gone so far as to exhibit desperate behavior intentionally just BECAUSE they wanted their loved ones and friends to stage an intervention, merely for the attention they didn’t feel they were getting. Celebrity be damned, we are ALL susceptible. Life’s chaos reaches all social status’, from doctors and lawyers, to celebrities, to your local mailman.

The first thing that has to be understood is the most important one of all. These people are unwell, sick, ill, however you feel to title it. This is not the type of “ill” that means take two aspirins and call me in the morning. It is certainly not the “ill” because they drank too much last night and have a hangover, but in fact, unwell deep, deep down. Psychologically, emotionally, and sometimes physically SO damaged that it strikes the fear of God in anyone associated with this person. Creating such damage to those around such a person, that families are ripped apart at the seams, marriages destroyed, children scarred for life, and in a sober state, in many cases would not consciously be inflicted, but is so, “by proxy” of the addiction.

It’s very easy and simple to point to substance abuse as the issue. Read the blogs, read the news… “Such and such out partying”. Out drinking, caught smoking pot, numerous trips to the bathroom. Well, they are wrong. They are in fact, “out escaping”. Escaping from their perceived, but real inability to cope with their own life pressures and reality. Perception IS reality. One’s perception of self and surroundings can vastly differ from the opinions of another, especially through clouded thought processes. Substance abuse and substance dependence are often times defined by a very fine line. Whichever term you choose, whether it be alcohol, drugs, prescription medication, household chemicals, or any other “self medicating” behavior is a learned behavior. Someone taught you what to drink, someone told you what to expect, someone taught you how to smoke pot, someone taught you how to snort, smoke, inject the substance of choice, and whiff the bottle. This is what must change. Remember, this is an illness, commonly much deeper rooted than the substance intake itself. It stems from somewhere. And you don’t have to look too far in most cases to find personal pain.

Is Rehab Always The Answer?

How does one change, get well, recover? Wow. If we had the answer there wouldn’t be rehab. Rehab is not always the answer either. People generally like to speak of what worked for them, stories, if you will. What worked for you might or might not work for the next guy. Going to rehab is a VERY emotional experience. It usually begins with fear, anger, and then further anger at the “prison like” rules which are the farthest thing from the former lifestyle (especially of the rich and famous), but it is those very rules you came to rehab seeking. It takes commitment, hard work, and compassion from many. In some cases, rehab isn’t what that person expected. It fails to meet their “ordinary” life’s needs. Which in most cases is the point. But, this is where I personally take issue with the ritzy Malibu 30, 40, $50,000 a month rehabilitation facilities. I’ve personally visited some of those “5 Star” facilities in Malibu and elsewhere in the country. I’ve arranged for people who wouldn’t go to SAG covered health insurance facilities to seek help at these places. Don’t get me wrong; rehab DOES work for some, just not for all, no matter what the price. But being on the beach in Malibu or the mountains of Utah, or the coast of the Bahamas IS NOT going to bring down biblical miracles of rehabilitation. It starts with the will of the person going, combined with numerous other factors and pre-conditioning before ever getting them to the door. I’ve seen, first hand, these “5 star” rehabs guilty of their own manipulations and story telling. I’ve seen folks “punished” and not served a meal because they “woke up 10 minutes late.” I’ve seen inside leaks to the media in some of the “celeb centric” facilities. Sorry, but I do not feel that these types of things are going to aid in the recovery of a person who is unwell with an addiction. Punishment is NOT the answer, nor is selling their privacy. Being accountable for your actions is. I’ve seen folks go into medical facilities for detoxification (usually a requirement prior to going to a rehab) and be released from the facility when it is obvious the individual did NOT have the time to detoxify. I’ve also seen them walk right into rehab and start pitting counselor against counselor creating havoc beyond belief, in 5 Star and County Rehab alike. Looking back at my own first stint in outpatient county rehab at the age of 18, I had getting high on cocaine down SO well that my counselor happily told my parents I was drug free, as I was sitting there high as a kite.

Rehab usually consists of a myriad of methods for recovery from individual counseling, group therapy, confidence courses, working with animals, outdoor activities, psychiatrists, psychologists, nurses, doctors, regimented house rules, etc. People go to rehab for many reasons, from smoking, to substances, to sexual addictions, the list goes on. I do NOT believe that ANYONE with deeply rooted issues that are expressing themselves through an addiction CAN BE well in a 30 day rehab stint. I just don’t. Years and years of deeply rooted issues cannot be resolved in a month. Period. Do NOT let anyone fool you. In my opinion, you are just asking for a relapse. Rehab is only a STEPPING STONE to wellness. Coming out of rehab can create new stresses, and stress is a very common cause for relapse. The support must be ongoing for the rest of your life. Frequently, people attempting sobriety, will continue to act out or continue behavior exhibited while they were under the influence of the substance. Sometimes, for example, what is sometimes referred to as a “Dry Drunk”, is a person that is completely alcohol free, yet their behavior does not change. Hence, as an example, the continued need for support to change that behavior while maintaining sobriety as well.

Britney Spears’ Behaviour Is Not New

So let me be so bold as to make an observation about the latest “Toxic” headline generator Ms. Spears. Nothing I will say here is to be construed as FACT, but only my OPINION and OBSERVATION having seen this in the past oh so many times. Ms. Spears recent behavior is not new. Let’s start by saying that. This has been going on for years. We first must distinguish the human from the brand. Yes Britney lovers, the Britney you see on stage, TV, and read or hear interviews with is NOT Britney Spears the human. As a matter of fact, they are VASTLY different. Therein lays a core issue. The human, a young undeveloped CHILD when this all began MUST live up to the BRAND. In the early years, the exemplary teen pop star influenced millions. Every mom, dad and family could gather round the TV and watch her perform; they could buy the CD’s and just have a good, safe, Disney type time together. Fans bought this by the millions, and felt they “knew” “Brit”. They didn’t. They bought a well-crafted, perfectly marketed brand that happened to be a human. I remember years ago, they took a common rock from your front yard, put it in a box, called it a Pet Rock, and sold millions of them. In the end, you were buying a rock, period, and paying several dollars for it. Case in point? Replace the rock with a human, and you have a product. In reality, behind the scenes, you have a young girl denied the life experiences of your average teen, thrust into a limelight and lifestyle that many dream of. A dream that quickly bursts with the pressures, schedule, responsibility, expectations set and all the other accouterments that go with being “Britney Spears” the BRAND. Let me tell you that is one HELL of a weight to put on a CHILD.

Stardom does strange things to people. It creates a completely false reality. A reality that the world is at your fingertips and you are quite simply, bulletproof. And when the cash cow that was the Britney “brand” exploded to fruition (which if you remember was quite early in her singing career), it was indeed a false reality. Never a need unfulfilled. You want it, it’s yours. An entourage of “yes men” to cater to your every whim. They are what is commonly called “Enablers”. From the parents, to the managers, labels, publicists, entourage, a very very well oiled machine, extremely lucrative and dare anyone defy it, for fear of being ostracized from the gravy train. Sure, SOME humans felt bad, but who was telling her no? I fear, no one. This creates a monster beyond proportions. A monster that ultimately becomes selfish, non caring and has uber high expectations of those around her. It is no surprise that the level of “catering” just skyrockets and the manipulation level increases to “get what one wants” to the extent of being cast out from the financial circle if these demands are not met. Next albums, bigger cash, bigger stress, bigger expectations, and no escapes, except ONE.

The Destruction Caused By Enablers

A cocktail, a joint, a sleeping pill, or in some cases, stimulants to get through the next show because if not for that, exhaustion would create insurance claims for cancelled shows. Can’t have that. Can’t be human. There’s too much money on the line. And there it is, the beginning of the end. Pretty soon you have managers, agents, publicists, friends, and family all now covering up the behind the scenes “monster” that has been created. I truly believe the only difference with Britney Spears today, from the Britney Spears years ago, is that the “flaws” (as we will call them) were protected, covered up. If they weren’t, the money wheel would stop spinning.

The “enablers” working full-time, protect the brand, all at the expense of the human. Pure Tragedy. And yes, you can say “Overprotected”, but not in the way she expressed in the song. There are many former teen idols that will tell you the same thing and there have been many a TV documentary created about these very topics, most of which have a very sad ending. The incredible pressures and demands of “stardom”, combined with basic human psychological, emotional, and other variables of everyday life, create astronomical burdens in living up to what this business expected of her. This has played a major role in and has done nothing but assist to create what you see today. Yes, you read me right, what this business has DONE to her. Enormous and possibly irreparable damage. And of course what will happen? Jive I’m sure by now has ceased all further funding for her record because of her “stability” and from a business sense, why shouldn’t they? Why spend 100,000’s of thousands of dollars to try and get product that she isn’t capable of delivering, or flatly just won’t show up for? On the other hand, this can also be a part of the problem. The feeling of abandonment.

The Impact of “IT” and The Paparazzi

Now, let’s talk paparazzi. Every move she makes, on film. Being human, on film. You, me, and everyone reading this article has picked their nose while driving, all in our own little world. Britney? Denied even that space. There is NO sanctuary, no place to go, nowhere to run, nowhere to hide. Constantly scrutinized, judged (based on the brand we all bought into remember), for everything she does. If you think for a MOMENT this does not affect emotion, psyche, create stress, conflict, and cause personal turmoil you are vastly mistaken. Before you take that step for the “dream life”, just think about it. Now, to be fair, celebrities USE the paparazzi ALL THE TIME. So while we can all sit back and think about how horrible it is, you must remember: this is NOT always a one way street. Celebs have been known to use the paparazzi for a myriad of things, even down to recreating shots for the magazines because they didn’t happen to feel the image was of the quality they desired. Take or leave it, believe it or not. It IS and will ALWAYS be a two way street. Paparazzi, Tabloids, etc. Celebs deal with them daily, sometimes to their advantage when they can, for example by offering a story/interview/photos, in lieu of a less flattering story hitting the grocery racks. Way it goes. BUT!!!!!! There is a line. And it is my personal opinion in this case, the tabloids, blogs, paparazzi, have SEVERELY crossed it. It’s a catch 22. With Britney, they follow her to catch the “IT” event…the head shave, the breakdown, etc. What they have no regard for is this simple fact that by following her closer then her own ass does, they are CREATING the “IT”.

Guys, for the love of God, it’s obvious she’s sick. Instead of crowding my street today with 40 SUV’s and trampling my lawn, leave her alone, it is time. You’ve gotten the photos, you’ve made your money, please, if you have a conscience, you are damaging this girl beyond belief, and all for money. Ignore my words, and may you forever live with the fact that you were part of the destruction of a human being, not unlike your own child, mother, sister, brother, father, best friend, etc. For some reason, I think these words will fall on deaf ears as a certain amount of these groups of people are the bottom feeders of society; for when and if the day comes when she collapses on the sidewalk foaming at the mouth, they’ll want the picture. And to any magazine, tabloid, or blog that runs or buys from these photos: you are chasing her for today and risking the lives of others, you are just as guilty. I don’t know how you sleep at night, but ultimately in this case, one prays that Karma, Pearly Gates, Heaven, answering to a higher power, whatever flavor you follow actually does exist. Even if it is to provide comfort because one day you shall have to answer for the infliction of destruction you caused upon others.

Intervention…..or Betrayal?

So…I’ve seen it asked, why hasn’t there been an intervention staged? That is a complex question. It runs deep. I have mixed feelings about interventions because they can severely backfire. Either way, let me make an observation in this case, and this case only, if I may be so bold. My guess? The folks who would or have tried were the very same folks that have been the enablers, like it or not. As such, it can be perceived as an act of betrayal. For example, “Who are you to do this to me, you sat there and got my pot for me when I needed it, or, wait a minute, you were the one that got me X, Y and Z or had liquor sent to my room every night of the tour when I asked”. Betrayal. People in and around the entourage themselves suffering from unaddressed and untreated addictions that at one time “shared a joint”. It can also be that the person trying to stage this intervention or participate is a pothead themselves, for example, and where’s the credibility there? It’s not going to get you the response you are seeking, and most likely will result in a failed intervention or create more damage as an act of “deception” pushing those folks even further away, and grossly inhibiting their ability to now be able to help. I also don’t think that punishment by ultimatum or abandonment is the answer. There are folks who argue this all day, but these are just my beliefs.

Regardless, with the intervention attempts, the constant hounding, etc, pretty soon those all around become “the enemy” and the person feels even MORE isolated, distant, alone and betrayed by their closest people. Bad things can happen. But, having said that, it is important that the so called “enablers” play an active part in the recovery, I just believe that timing is very crucial as to when that process begins or occurs.

The Ultimate Bottom is Quite Simply, Death.

Soon the behavior becomes more erratic, the consumption of substance more frequent and in larger quantities, and it spirals endlessly out of control, with no one able to stop it until “she bottoms”. There are many bottoms, there’s the bottom that says she wakes up one day and says, “I’m done, I’ve had enough, I’ll never be free, I’ll never escape my demons internal or external” and WHEN the ultimate bottom actually occurs. I do not believe in allowing ANYONE to hit bottom, none of us are experts enough to know what a bottom is for one individual human, no matter how close you “think” you are to them. I see it so often, “Oh, they have to hit bottom”. Well, with the influence of substance, that bottom can occur on a whim of substance intake, and by the time that bottom gets hit, you are making burial arrangements. A bottom in this case is tough to even speculate, nor should it be attempted. For example, you are dealing with a certain financial wealth, which can create a significant hurdle in the ability to make a step towards recovery difficult and sustain a free-fall without ever hitting a “financial” bottom. That is commonly one of the “bottoms” people hit as a result of their addiction (gambling, drinking, not going to work, spending money on drugs, etc,) all the while mounting other damage. So to those who are seeking the “bottom”, don’t. She’s already there in every way she can be. The failed marriage and losing the kids are just ridges on the cliff she’s fallen from that she hits on the way down to the inevitable bottom. You have to understand one thing, she is slowly killing herself, with the possibility of that slowness turning into hyperspeed with just the wrong combination of pills and alcohol, as an example. The ultimate bottom is quite simply, death. Don’t wait for her to hit “the bottom”. There are children involved here; they are the most innocent victims in the story, completely and utterly helpless. There is not much to say, simply out of respect for them. It’s very easy to “blame” Britney for “what she is doing to those kids”. Don’t. She can’t help it. She can’t stop. She’s sick. It’s time for a new strategy folks, again she’s not at the edge, she’s free falling from it.

One Thing is For Sure: Nothing is For Sure

In and out of rehab, short stays, more of the instability? Reaction to movements of others around her in their attempts to control certain aspects of the apparently uncontrollable? Hard to say, one can only hope that she finds the necessary strength to begin the path to healing. That is the single most important thing, no matter how it’s achieved. Whether by ultimatum and outside pressure or force, and later realization “once inside” that there is a path, one thing is for sure: nothing is for sure. I’ve seen ultimatums backfire as the choice be made that a 30-45 day stint in rehab is better than the outside consequences, yet yield no true path to healing, and subsequently it’s relapse city. It’s merely perceived as “serving a short sentence” for a crime rather than the self realization that there are deep rooted issues that need to be addressed and dealt with appropriately. In this case, that concerns me. Will it occur that the decision is made that the “punishment” doesn’t fit the crime? The things to ponder. Yet I champion the fact at least the door is open, for the moment.

Again, this is all observation, not fact, just opinion. As I write this I reflect on my own experiences in achieving sobriety, some memories painful, others of great joy that go along with a sense of accomplishment. Ups and downs, successes and failures, loves and losses. I write this with one thing in mind for Britney or anyone else finding themselves feeling alone, abandoned, unloved, unfulfilled, helpless, worthless, full of pain and relying on substance to fill the void: you are not alone. There is someone out there who can guide you, help you brush the dust off when you fall, be a net if they see you falling, and ultimately, loves you and suffers just as much as you knowing you are out there. Do not be afraid to find that person, be it in a complete stranger, or in the person sitting next to you on the couch. You need them as much as they need you because life is in fact, Chaotic.

Source: tob.hollywood.com

Alison's note:

I really like this person, whoever they are. I have been angry with Britney for not doing what I felt was in the best interests of her children since the divorce. What I didn't realize until the last few days is that this was a "sick little girl," and that the story was much, much bigger than Britney filing for divorce one day. I'm not angry anymore. I'm sad. It's such a tragic story. I think we should all stop looking for who's fault it is, including myself. I want Britney to get better. I want everyone who cares about her to get better too. It is time that Britney the human being becomes more important than Britney the brand, she deserves that.

Kevin leaving rehab after visiting Britney

Video: Kevin Federline leaves Promises Rehab Facility

Kevin Federline leaves Promises Rehab Facility in Malibu, CA, in his Dodge Viper Truck after visiting Britney Spears for almost an hour. The police were on hand as well as a private security team hired by Britney's family. Kevin has been in custody of the couple's two children for the past week while Britney has seemed to spiral down the wrong track.

Source: splash-video.com

Friday, February 23, 2007

Grandma day at the Federline household

Video: Julie Bleak and Lynne Spears arrive at Kevin's

It seems to be grandma day at the Federline household! Kevin Federline's mother Julie Bleak arrives in a blacked out chauffeur driven SUV and Britney Spears' mother Lynne Spears arrives at the house and tries to hide herself whilst carrying baby toys. Also pictured is an assistant taking items into the house, a burly bodyguard walking around the grounds and a police car stationed outside the home.

Source: splash-video.com

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Kevin visits Britney in rehab today

Video: Kevin leaves his home to visit Britney

Kevin Federline visits Britney Spears at Promises Rehab Center in Malibu. Kevin Federline makes his way to the Promises Rehab facility in Malibu to visit his ex-wife Britney Spears. Federline drove himself in his truck and was accompanied by a police car as he drove up into the hills to visit his popstar ex-wife.

Source: splash-video.com

“Extra’s” learned that Britney’s estranged ex, Kevin Federline, visited the pop princess at the Promises rehab clinic in Malibu Friday.

Britney is expected to be a patient at the facility for 30-45 days, while it’s rumored K-Fed is currently taking care of their two young sons.

Source: extratv.com

Kevin Federline has gone to visit Britney Spears in rehab, PEOPLE has learned.

Source: people.com

People - Kevin just wants her to be OK. He loves her.

Spears's estranged husband, Kevin Federline, is anxious about his wife's condition – and about the couple's two sons.

"Britney scared everyone pretty bad. Kevin is worried that's for sure," a source close to Federline tells PEOPLE. "Kevin just wants her to be OK. He loves her, so however she can get better is just what we'll have to accept. [They] will make it work with the kids – it's all still for them."

One person, who also agrees that Federline has Spears's best interests at heart is her childhood friend and first husband, Jason Alexander, whom the pop star wed in Las Vegas in 2004 (their marriage was annulled 55 hours later).

Federline is "a good dude," Alexander, 25, told PEOPLE on Tuesday, the day before Spears checked out of the Promises rehab center after a one-day stay. "I know he takes care of those kids."

Alexander, who in November called Federline "an idiot," now thinks Spears's estranged husband "just got caught up and manipulated," he says. "Maybe getting Kevin out of her life wasn't the best thing for her."

Source: people.com

Promises - where Britney is getting help

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One of the initial goals for any addict is to detox – a process which cleanses the body of the toxins that come from drug abuse. A professionally monitored detox program ensures the most safe and comfortable management of physical and psychological symptoms. During the medical detox period, a physician is present to ensure the safety and comfort of the detoxifying individual. A quality program also includes counseling and analysis of the psychological root of one’s addiction and serves as a transition to primary treatment.

When an individual admits to Promises, our goal is to directly address the disease of alcoholism and/or drug addiction. Our approach involves professional addiction treatment such as psychotherapy, family therapy, support groups, and other counseling services. It also includes other activities designed to strengthen the mind, body and spirit. Our experience has shown that when traditional therapies are combined with specialized treatments, the result is a sizable increase in graduates achieving sobriety and coping with changes. The Promises comprehensive approach ensures a smooth reintegration into mainstream life including socially, professionally and personally.

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Lynne visits Kevin and the kids yesterday

X17online.com has pictures of Lynne Spears arriving at Kevin's house to visit him and the kids at 1:30 yesterday. She apparently stayed for a long visit. There are also pictures of police outside to keep watch, and an assistant delivering groceries.

More pics of Jayden James Federline

Pictures of this baby, rumored to be Jayden James Federline, first appeared a week ago. According to OK! Magazine the pink is to help disguise him.






Source: breatheheavy.com

Kevin's attorney on rumored court hearing

Michael Sands, a publicist for Federline's attorney, told FOX News they believed someone made up the news of the hearing and told Los Angeles Superior Court spokesman Allan Parachini about it.

Federline and his attorney Mark Vincent Kaplan say they never called for a hearing, and that no court papers for a hearing were ever filed.

Earlier Thursday, Jamie Spears told FOX News that Federline and his lawyer were not scheduled to appear Thursday at an emergency hearing in family law court, as Parachini had said. He also alluded to someone leaking misinformation.

Parachini later issued an update: "A lawyer has called the bailiff and indicated nothing is going to happen today," he said. He identified the lawyer as Kaplan.

Kaplan had contacted the court on Wednesday and asked for the appearance, according to the Associated Press.

"Kevin continues to be a very focused father with his children with hands-on management," said a statement from Kaplan, read by Sands.

Source: foxnews.com

Thursday, February 22, 2007

More info on Britney's visit to Kevin's last night

From etonline.com:

Sources tell ET BRITNEY SPEARS returned to Promises residential treatment center on Wednesday night after checking out of the Malibu, CA, facility earlier that morning.

Also on Wednesday a desperate Britney was photographed using an umbrella to hit a car outside the home where her ex, KEVIN FEDERLINE, is reportedly staying. The photos reveal a furious Britney dressed in white shorts and a hooded sweatshirt repeatedly striking an SUV with an umbrella.

After reportedly spending 45 minutes outside his residence, Britney's mom picked her up and eventually brought her to the rehab facility.

From x17online.com:


Britney went to Kevin's house in the San Fernando Valley last night around 7 pm and rang the bell at his gate three times with no answer. She was so frustrated that when her assistant stopped the car, Britney grabbed an umbrella and went after our photographers.

But here's the rest of the story -- when Britney rang at Kevin's, he was in fact inside the house with the babies. He left thirty minutes later and headed to the couple's former love nest in Malibu's Serra Retreat where Britney was waiting. Apparently she calmed herself down enough and perhaps made a deal with Kevin regarding Sean and Jayden because late last night, Britney went back to Promises rehab center. And then Kevin's emergency hearing today was cancelled.

We can only hope that Britney and Kevin have come to an agreement that will be best for their children and for Brit. If she's back in rehab and can stay there and the kids are well taken care of and can get a healthy mom back, then perhaps this story will have a happy ending. Best wishes to Britney ...

Britney's father Jamie Spears speaks

Earlier, Spears' father told FOX News that the troubled pop princess is "a sick little girl ... we're just trying to take care of her."

Jamie Spears, speaking Thursday from his Louisiana home, also told FOX News' Lisa Bernhard that he did not want to comment on the specifics of Spears' current situation. He added that the problems with Spears are "not about what other people think," and that he and Spears' mom are "concerned about our daughter."

Source: foxnews.com

Britney back in rehab, hearing cancelled, Kevin has temporary custody

From tmz.com:

TMZ has confirmed Britney Spears is back in rehab.

We're told the singer is hoping three times is a charm. The emergency custody hearing that Kevin Federline wanted has been cancelled because of the new development. There will be no custody hearing today.

Sources tell TMZ Federline is concerned for Spears' welfare and wants her to get the help she is now seeking. We're also told this will be Spears' last chance -- if she leaves rehab before getting full treatment, Federline will immediately go to court seeking orders allowing him unquestioned full custody of the children.

We're told Spears showed up at Federline's house last night and he wouldn't let her in.

Sources say the kids are now in the custody of Federline, and have been since last week.

TMZ has just confirmed Spears' inpatient rehab program is supposed to last between 30 and 45 days.

From perezhilton.com:

Faced with the very real threat of losing custody of her sons, the hard-pAArtying former pop star caved in to pressure from Kevin Federline and checked back in to rehab on Thursday morning.

As a result of Britney's decision to get the help she desperately needs but is relucatant to receive, Kevin has agreed to cancel today's previously scheduled emergency custody court hearing.

This is reportedly Spears' last chance at sobering up

Three strikes and she's out!

If Britney leaves rehab before getting full treatment, which is expected to last a minimum of 30 days, Kevin will immediately go to court seeking orders allowing him unquestioned full custody of the children.

A crazed Spears arrived at Federline's house last night but he wouldn't let her in.

Both Tater Tot and Small Fry have been staying with Kevin since last week.

Despite their strained relationship these last few months, Extra TV is reporting that Lynne Spears, Britney's mother, was with the addict last night and was the one that drove her back to the Promises rehab center, which she has checked into again in order to keep her babies.

From people.com:

Britney Spears has returned to rehab, PEOPLE has confirmed.

Mark Vincent Kaplan, a lawyer for Spears's estranged husband, Kevin Federline, confirmed through a spokesman that the pop star has entered a treatment facility – and that a custody hearing over the couple's two sons has been canceled

According to the spokesman, no emergency papers will be filed as had been planned in the custody matter.

From usmagazine.com:

According to Michael Sands, a rep for Federline's lawyer: "There was never a hearing officially scheduled and there's not going to be a hearing today from what I understand. Kevin remains a very focused father."

Allan Parachini, the public information director for L.A. Superior Court, explained to Usmagazine.com that while "an inquiry" was made to the court clerk yesterday, he cannot confirm who made it. "The person who made the inquiry was told they would be accommodated," Parachini says. "However, nothing was ever officially filed."

A Federline source says just because Spears has entered rehab again that doesn't mean Federline's attorney, Mark Vincent Kaplan, still won't aggressively litigate a custody battle, explaining that "Mark Vincent Kaplan is no shrinking violet."

Meanwhile, Usmagazine.com has learned that Spears turned up at Federline's house yesterday evening, rang the buzzer three times but was not let inside. Then she stormed off, only to resurface later that night at Promises with a bodyguard in tow.

Britney says she's doing 'Great', and more

From People.com:

After checking out, Spears arrived at the Bel-Air Hotel on Wednesday. When asked by PEOPLE how she was doing, she replied, "Great. I'm great."

From AP (Associated Press):

Popping in and out of rehab centers is not a smart move for someone involved in a child custody battle, said New York-based family law attorney Joshua Forman, who is not involved in Spears' case.

"That's ridiculous. Wherever you are and whatever your problem is, you go through the program the place offers and you do what they tell you to do," Forman told the AP. "Checking in and out for one day doesn't show the court anything."

Federline's agent, Allison Joyce, said the 28-year-old aspiring rapper and former backup dancer would have no comment.

Britney's agent, Jason Trawick, referred inquiries to her manager, Larry Rudolph, who referred them to Gina Orr, the publicist at Jive Records, Spears' label. Orr did not respond to e-mail and phone messages, and Spears' Web site, where the singer once posted messages directly to fans, was all but blank on Wednesday. A message on its home page simply stated: "Stay tuned! Britney's new Web site is in the works."

Whether her recent behavior will damage her recording career is hard to say, said Vibe magazine music editor Jon Caramanica, although he suggested a way to minimize damage would be to quickly and candidly discuss the situation.

"The thing worth noting is that the reason this is such a big deal is that many people really cared about Britney to begin with, and that shouldn't be taken lightly," he said.

From Star.com:

So what's going on with the pop princess? "There's a good chance that we could witness a nervous breakdown," New York-based psychologist Dr. Cooper Lawrence, Ph.D., who doesn't treat Britney, tells Star. Dr. Lawrence says Brit may have a condition called aggressogenic cognitions, which "means that your brain just acts out and doesn't go through the process of thinking things through." Dr. Barry Lubetkin, Ph.D., who doesn't treat Brit either, says that, judging from her wild mood swings, Brit could also be bipolar.

"Bipolar depression has two phases: a depressed phase and a manic phase," he explains, noting that such celebs as Jane Pauley and Margot Kidder also suffer from the illness. "It sounds to me like she is in the manic phase, epitomized by reckless behavior like shaving your head, checking in and out of rehab and exposing yourself in public."

It seems some people inside Brit's camp have long suspected that something is wrong with the star. "You're seeing the real Britney," another insider tells Star. "People who used to do shows with her said she used to put on the best show, but behind the scenes she would be off the wall. People are really worried."

Britney tried to visit Kevin last night

X17 can report, exclusively, that Britney went to Kevin Federline's house tonight, just hours ago. It's not all blonde wigs and puppy dogs any more, people ...

Britney went, with her assistant, to Kevin's San Fernando Valley house, buzzed the intercom, and got no answer. She went around the block, came back, rang again, no answer. She tried a third time -- no reply from Kevin. Britney then took her anger out on our photographers, grabbing an umbrella and hitting their car, yelling.

Source: x17online.com

Wednesday, February 21, 2007

US Weekly - Kevin, his mother Julie, and Britney's mother Lynne are caring for the kids

Pic: Kevin and his mother Julie Bleak, attending Kevin's half brother Cameron's graduation in 2005.

K-Fed & Britney's Mom Caring for the Kids
Wednesday February 21, 2007

Usmagazine.com has learned that as Britney Spears continues to unravel in public, Kevin Federline has been working behind the scenes to take custody of their children away from the erratic pop star.

A source tells Us that Federline, 28, and his mother, along with the help of Spears' mother Lynne, have joined forces to aid Federline while he has cared for his sons -- Sean Preston, 17 months, and Jayden James, 5 months -- during their mother's recent rehab stints, partying and hotel stays.

"He is beyond sad," says a Federline pal. "This is the worst week of his entire life. He doesn't even want to pick up the phone. Things are beyond not well with Britney, and he still loves her."

Federline reportedly is now taking legal steps to protect his children. TMZ is reporting that Federline has requested an emergency custody hearing Thursday before an L.A. judge (Spears had been granted physical custody of the kids at an earlier hearing). Federline's rep couldn't be reached for comment, but Us has confirmed that a custody hearing has been set for Thursday.

According to our Federline insider, K-Fed made a call to his mother, Julie Bleak, on Valentine's Day asking for her to help him take care of the children. Bleak flew to L.A. on Feb. 15 (the same day Spears, 25, checked into the Crossroads Centre rehab facility in Antigua). Our source adds that Lynne Spears has also been present for her grandchildren, taking care of the children round-the-clock with Federline.

"Britney's family feels that Kevin has been a blessing and they are very impressed with Kevin taking so much responsibility," says a Spears family source. "Britney's family found out from the news this morning that Britney had left the rehab. Britney has not asked to see the kids because she knows she is not well and she does not want to scare Preston. She has no credit cards or cash. She is basically on the run at the moment."

Source: usmagazine.com

Kevin Federline schedules emergency hearing

LOS ANGELES (AP) — As Britney Spears was checking out of rehab for the second time in a week on Wednesday, her estranged husband was making plans to go to court amid a custody dispute over their two children.

Kevin Federline and his lawyer were scheduled to appear at a downtown courthouse Thursday for an emergency hearing, Superior Court spokesman Allan Parachini told The Associated Press. It was not known what issue Federline planned to raise.

Federline and Spears have two sons, 5-month-old Jayden James and 17-month-old Sean Preston.

"Our best information is he will be here; she won't," said Parachini. "But anything is possible."

Federline filed papers seeking spousal support and sole custody of the children after Spears sought to end their two-year marriage last November. A temporary court order issued Feb. 1 granted the couple joint custody until the end of this month.

Parachini said Federline's lawyer would try to persuade a Superior Court commissioner that the matter is urgent enough to be handled on an expedited basis.

Source: usatoday.com

Britney has a puppy with her, her family is 'devastated'

According to Perez Hilton:

Despite various media reports that her family froze her bank accounts and took away her credit cards, Britney Spears was spotted with what appeared to be a gold Visa or MasterCard on Tuesday afternoon.

Currently, Britney is holed up at the Bel Air Hotel, though sources reveal exclusively to PerezHilton.com that hotel staff have informed Spears she can only spend one night there.

Source: perezhilton.com

More pics at perezhilton.com and x17online.com.

From E! News:

Her manager, Larry Rudolph, confirmed Tuesday that the 25-year-old singer had voluntarily entered rehab, telling E! News' Ryan Seacrest that Spears was determined to focus on her recovery.

"We ask that the media respect her privacy as well as those of her family and friends at this time," Rudolph said in a statement.

Rudolph's privacy plea apparently fell on deaf ears, as paparazzi photos of a bald-headed Spears taking a smoking break within the confines of the treatment center surfaced on the Internet Tuesday afternoon.

A source tells E! Online that Spears was furious about the photographs, which directly contributed to her decision to leave Promises.

Unsurprisingly, Spears' friends and family aren't happy that she has given up on rehab once again.

"Everyone in the family is crying and beside themselves," a close family friend tells E! Online's Marc Malkin. "To say that the family is devastated is beyond an understatement. Nobody knows what to do."

Getting through to Spears is increasingly difficult, as the troubled star has been avoiding contact with those close to her by changing her cell phone numbers on a weekly basis, the friend said.

Source: eonline.com

People confirms Britney leaves rehab against advice, and rumors about her seeing a lawyer

Britney Spears Leaves Rehab

WEDNESDAY FEBRUARY 21, 2007 12:00 PM EST
WEDNESDAY FEBRUARY 21, 2007 02:10 PM EST UPDATED
By Frank Swertlow

A day after entering Promises, a residential rehab facility in Malibu, Britney Spears has checked out of the treatment center, a source confirms to PEOPLE.

"It was against their advice," says the source. "If she comes back for treatment, Promises will have to assess the situation. Sometimes people come back, but it doesn't look good."

Promises is not a locked-down facility, so a patient is able to leave the program if he or she wants to.

Entertainment Tonight and TMZ.com were first to report that Spears had left rehab.

On Tuesday, Spears's manager, Larry Rudolph, told PEOPLE the singer had "voluntarily checked herself into an undisclosed rehab facility today."

Over the weekend, Spears, 25, shaved her head, got two new tattoos and was spotted partying in West Hollywood.

Last week, she visited Eric Clapton's Crossroads Centre in Antigua but left after just one day and headed to Florida, a source told PEOPLE at the time.

Source: people.com

Alison's note - there have so many rumors and reports about this it's hard to keep up. I'm posting this rumor because if true it's pretty significant and it involves Kevin.

Britney's Been Spotted!

This is still unconfirmed, but we just received a tip that Britney Spears is at an office building in West Hollywood RIGHT NOW (9119 Sunset Blvd, which is near the Chateau Marmont, where another source told PerezHilton.com Britney was at earlier today).

Spears it apparently at the law office of Barry Tarlows (a defense attorney) wearing her 2 dollar blonde wig with a brown hat and some brown haired assistant-looking girl.

No clue what she's doing there.

Update: Britney is reportedly "flipping out" because Kevin Federline won't let her see their two boys, sources tell us.

Source: perezhilton.com

Britney, wearing a blonde wig and brown hat, literally just left an office (believed to be that of criminal defense attorney Barry Tarlow) on Sunset Blvd.! Our crews are with her right now in Beverly Hills -- stay tuned for updates!




Source: x17online.com

Britney Spears Lawyers Up

Britney Spears has lawyered up again -- this time, she met with the lawyer who represented Mel Gibson in his DUI case.

Sources say Spears went this morning to meet with Blair Berk, a prominent criminal defense lawyer whose roster of clients includes Lindsay Lohan, Halle Berry, Tracy Morgan and others.

We do not know why Spears chose to meet with Berk, although it's unlikely it has anything to do with her divorce. In her divorce case, Spears is repped by disso-queen Laura Wasser.

Spears could have met with Berk on a civil matter, as Berk handles both civil and criminal matters. Interestingly, Berk once repped Reese Witherspoon in her battle with hard-driving paparazzi. It's possible Spears went to Berk for similar reasons.

Source: tmz.com

ET - Britney Spears Leaves Rehab Again

Sources tell ET that BRITNEY SPEARS left Promises residential treatment center in Malibu, CA early this morning -- less than 24 hours after checking into the facility.

Following the news that she was in rehab, her manager LARRY RUDOLPH released a statement Tuesday, saying, "Britney Spears has voluntarily checked herself into an undisclosed rehab facility today. We ask that the media respect her privacy as well as those of her family and friends at this time."

It all started over the weekend, when Britney made headlines by taking a pair of electric shears to her head and shaving off all of her hair. The mom of two small children visited a Tarzana, Calif. hair salon on Friday, and asked veteran stylist ESTHER TOGNOZZI to shave her head.

"All of a sudden there were people knocking on my door saying, 'Open the door,' and they said Britney Spears needs to come in," Tognozzi tells ET.

"She sat on my chair and wanted her hair shaved off and I said, 'I'm not doing it,'" she continues. "I said, 'Maybe you're having, you know, a hormonal moment [and] tomorrow will be different, let's talk about it,' and she said, 'No I want my hair shaved off.'" When Tognozzi hesitated, Brit used a pair of electric clippers to shave her hair off herself. "[She] came over and sat in this chair ... and proceeded shaving off her hair."

The songstress was then spotted at a Los Angeles-area tattoo parlor, where she got two new pieces of body art.

This shocking move comes on the heels of People magazine's report that last week the singer checked in and abruptly checked out of ERIC CLAPTON's Crossroads Centre, a rehab facility in Antigua, leaving after just one day and returning to Southern California on Friday.

Ever since separating from Federline in November, Britney has been making headlines for her party-hopping and no-panty-wearing ways.

Besides being caught numerous times by paparazzi flashing her goods while getting in and out of her rides, she has also been spotted everywhere, from Malibu to Las Vegas to New York City, making the rounds at the hottest clubs.

First she was seen out a number of times with PARIS HILTON. Soon that friendship reportedly fizzled, and Britney started spending time with ISAAC COHEN until their reported recent split.

Source: etonline.com