Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Is someone trying to tell us the truth?

A few anonymous comments appeared on this blog that I believe deserve some attention. There are already some of have said they don't believe it, but then again that happens with fans of an artist anytime something is said they don't like, and I've heard many denials where Britney is concerned lately when the truth has come out.

First of all, I've been curious about the real story ever since Britney filed for divorce. A few weeks after it, I posted Who are Kevin and Britney and what really happened?, which includes several anonymous comments posted shortly after the divorce. A few notible ones that have stuck with me:

nothing in this situation is as it seems

and

he didnt know the divorce was going to happen that soon, although he'd been threatened with divroce a few times, they were seperated for a few weeks before but he still thought they would work it out

Recently Felicia, Britney's long time assistant, gave us a big puzzle piece, and her friend backed her up (a few posts down). Felicia made it clear that Britney has had problems for a long time now, and she felt that Kevin was her door out of the situation. She proved that indeed, nothing has been as it seems for a long time now. I speculated not too long ago that Britney might have a Histrionic Personality Disorder. The more I think about it, the more I think it fits. There may be other problems too. I'm just happy that Britney is in rehab, and I'm hoping she'll be able to work though some of her issues.

Now for the recent anonymous comments, which in my opinion, fit with what Felicia had to say as well as what other anonymous posters have told us. As always, you can decide for yourself.

In the Friend talks about Felicia and mentions Kevin post:

Anonymous said...

I think overall Felicia speaking out publicly on Britneys current state of mind is POSITIVE.
Because her closests longtime friends and family have actually kept alot of her troubles quiet and just informed her privately of their opinions on her behavior she's been able to IGNORE them and tell them to shut the hell up and get out of her life.
Britney has been able to keep many harmful SECRETS and those secrets are HURTING not HELPING her.

Maybe it is time someone who loves her finally said something publicly about it to get her to pay attention.

Felicia didnt say anything HURTFUL about Britney, just that she needs help.

It's about time people including Britney's hardcore devoted fans (of which I have been one) stop trying to protect her and shield her, thats whats led to her behaving the way she is currently.

She thinks she can get away with ANYTHING, she treats EVERYONE including Kevin and her children like posessions.

Kevin has always said that he loves Britney but eventually people were going to find out that she is crazy.

Noone can blame this on Kevin, if anything Kevin was able to help her shield how unstable she was mentally by absorbing some of the blame. Kevin knew he wasnt to blame for her behavior or emoional instability but he let the public berate him and blame him anyway.
WHY?

To protect Britney.

That's love.
and
That's the truth.

Anonymous said...

also,

alot of people think that Britney's mother, father, Felecia or other family members wanted her to leave Kevin.

That is so far from the truth its not even funny.

They ALL BEGGED him on multiple occasions NOT to leave her.
They almost got divroced after Sean P was born and her mother BEGGED him not to leave Britney.

There are so many people in her family that thought Kevin was the savior for Britney.

And in the People - Kevin Is Concerned About Britney, Says a Friend post:

Anonymous said...

Britney only filed for divorce as a emotional blackmail tactic to get Kevin back.
She has asked Kevin to come back to her TWICE since she filed for divorce.
He told her he's think about it.
She knows she needs him emotionally. She knows that she is slipping mentally and feels like Kevin can save her.
He doesnt want to just run back to her when she calls cause he doesnt want to end up in the same position they were before.

He loves that girl so much and she loves him too.


Anonymous said...

yes she filed for divorce because as a extreme tactic of getting Kevin to pay attention to her.

The girl has THREATENED divorce several times to him.

Each time she got her way.

This last time she threatened and he had enough of her threats.

She thought that by filing he would see she was serious.

but it backfired and he responded to the divorce and told her, "youre right, it's over"

and she soon after COMPLETELY LOST HER MIND


And the last post, which was mostly said previously with a few interesting details added in, and has been copied to other blogs as well.

Anonymous said...

First of All: A lot of people are under the impression that Britney’s mother, father, Felicia or other family members wanted her to leave Kevin.

That is so far from the truth it’s not even funny.

They ALL BEGGED him on multiple occasions NOT to leave her.
They almost got divorced after Sean P was born and her mother BEGGED him not to leave Britney.

There are so many people in her family that thought Kevin was the savior for Britney. They thought that Kevin would be able to do what they hadnt been able to do for her. KEEP her sane and normal. And it worked for awhile but unfortunately as most wise people know, you have to please yourself, noone can do that for you and you have to maintain your own sanity, noone, not even Kevin can do that for you.

The only people who wanted Kevin gone are her business handlers and fans. All for selfish reasons. They felt that Kevin was keeping her away from the stage, her career, her music, the fans. And maybe in a way he was. But, that’s what Britney wanted. Britney didn’t want to work anymore. She wanted someone to take care of her. So Kevin decided he would be the primary caregiver in their family and he tried to construct a career for himself so that he could take care of his wife and be a positive role model for his children. That is his ultimate goal, although he like many parents does have his faults.
And even thought that was what she wanted as well, Britney didn’t know how to let him do that without using her money against him whenever she wasn’t getting enough attention or getting her way. She KNEW that he had to get out there in the public and in the clubs. One day she would be ALL for it and supportive and the next day she’d be trying to sabotage him by causing arguments and fights.That was a very LARGE part of their disgreements during their marriage, that she would tell him she wanted one thing and then she would act in a irrational way. It took a tolll on Kevin and their marriage.

SECOND OF ALL: All of you people saying terrible things about Felicia don’t care about Britney!! Both Britney and her family continue to LOVE and SUPPORT Felicia immensely.

As for Felicia’s letter to Ruben, I think overall Felicia speaking out publicly on Britney’s current state of mind is POSITIVE.

Britney’s closest longtime friends and family have kept a lot of her troubles quiet and just informed her privately of their opinions on her behavior and because of that she’s been able to IGNORE them and tell them to shut the hell up and get out of her life, or she’d threaten to remove any financial gifts she had given them.
Britney has been able to keep many harmful SECRETS and those secrets are HURTING not HELPING her.

Maybe it is time someone who loves her finally said something publicly about it to get her to pay attention and let her know her behavior is NOT ok. You can’t treat people who love you and who you claim to love like a piece of property or a pet that you kick when you’re angry.

Felicia didn’t say anything HURTFUL about Britney in her letter to Ruben, just that she needs help.

Kudos to Felicia for being brave enough to do something Britney's own parents don't have the strength to do, but something that is ultimately what Britney needed.

It’s about time people including Britney’s hardcore devoted fans (of which I have been one) stop trying to protect her and shield her, that’s what’s led to her behaving the way she is currently.

She thinks she can get away with ANYTHING; she treats EVERYONE including Kevin and her children like possessions.

Kevin has always said that he loves Britney but eventually people were going to find out that she is crazy.

No one can blame this on Kevin; if anything Kevin was able to help her shield how unstable she was mentally by absorbing some of the blame. Kevin knew he wasn’t to blame for her behavior or emotional instability but he let the public berate him and blame him anyway.
WHY?

To protect Britney.

That’s love.
And
That’s the truth.

For the record, I believe you, whoever you are. Thanks for posting.

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

It takes two people to be in a marriage. If Kevin couldn't recognize Britney was in trouble before they got married then he never should have gotten married to her.

He knew she was vulnerable and still married her and had kids.

Anonymous said...

that s crazy!!!she never return to him cause he is dangerous and never treated her well!!!now britney will understand that.. if u notice the kids are with her mother not with him.britney doesnt want him back cause she suffered too much with him.and what she did it s for she was hurted by all who surrounded her.kevin was never at home,partyied all the time.. i don t think she wants this man by her side.all she wants is be loved... and she is knows that kevin is not the one.look at her in red carpet no feeling and no connection between them.i really think she wants justin back or a guy like justin by her side!!

Anonymous said...

If she had problems for a long time it dosn't help that he didn't have her confront them when they were married. Ouit acting like he is her savior and did nothing wrong in the marriage.

Anonymous said...

i m a fan of britney form 9years and i didn t see her happy with kevin.sorry but that s it.her family and friends love her so if even them wanted that she needed to push kevin away there is must be a reason.do you think about that??i don t think that kevin was the best for her.everything he said was not real.... and never supported by facts he only spoke.. like i love her... but i never saw him really by her side or really cared about her.the pic prove that sorry... you need to dont believe in what you read but in what you see.and see the pics..

Kristen said...

sorry but all that "insight" is comeplete BS, all that has been in every tabloid and taken from fe's letter. stop trying to act like these people and you know everything

Anonymous said...

"yes she filed for divorce because as a extreme tactic of getting Kevin to pay attention to her."


You honestly believe this Alison? If he wasn't paying attention to his wife how is that a good relationship? He should have been there for her and she shouldn't have had to threaten him for divorce to get attention.

Alison said...

Yes, I really believe it. In fact there was a councillor who visted this blog a few times right after the divorce that gave a lot of insightful views. She thought Britney wasn't really done with Kevin either and actually speculated that the divorce was a tactic as well.

Britney has problems. She apparently has been threatening and manipulating everyone for a long time now.

Give me some time and I'll put together another another post about why I belive this. Right now I'm off to work.

Anonymous said...

I'm a Kevin fan, can't really stnad Britney but seriously guys
JUST LET HER BE...everyone is critizing her behavior before entering rehab and now they are criticizing her for being in rehab. She doesn't need anymore attention brought to her, she is getting help that's all that matters.

Anonymous said...

alison you are the worst girl in the world...and rude too.britney is not britney for the day she broken with jt... and believe in me kevin is the worste man in the world..

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 8:54am - everyone is entitled to their opinion. Yours is not the only one that counts are is correct. If you can form an opionion about this, why can't anyone else? Get real!

Anonymous said...

Then all this "Kevin was hurt" via the text message and all that was total bullshit then. Kevin asking for spousal support and Britney to pay all his bill is bullshit and his way to get her money. Kevin being blindsiding about the divorce is bullshit.

So all this "Poor Kevin" nonsense was just that, nonsense. You can't be all those things when you WANTED OUT in the first place. Sorry.

And if Britney has had issues like this for a long time and Kevin just sat there and took it, then I am glad they are out that horrible marriage. Neither of them really were in it because of love but for their own selfish reasons. You can't love someone and refuse to help them. You can't claim to love someone and threaten them to make them love you.

Kevin obviously used her for her fame and money. Britney obviously used him because she was lonely, desperate, and unhealthy.

I guess we can all officially stop that "oh poor _______" routines because according to this their divorce wasn't a suprise to anyone.

Anonymous said...

Also how can he have not "expected the divorce would be this soon" when he was the one who left her and she was begging him to stay. Contradiction much?

Also there is something seriously wrong when a husband is ignoring his pregnant wife who is mostly alone with their infant child to the point that she has to "threaten divorce" to make him pay attention to her. And it is even worst when her knew something was not right. Sorry tough love doesn't work when emotions are all over the damn place due to mental issues and pregnancy. That is some fucked up logic and if that is the truth (and according to you it is) than their marriage was toxic from the start.

And Britney was such a damn mess and played power trips on Kevin. Why did he take it? Why in the hell were they still having sex and bringing another life into their fucked up marriage? Divorce after Sean Preston? Interesting. I am not surprised becasue those rumors were popping up anyways. Wasn't it Kevin who was barely around doing his "album" thing? I am not faulting the man for wanting to provide for his family, but if it was THAT bad why the hell didn't he quit and try to work it out? Makes you wonder what BOTH their motives were.

Britney and Kevin should have never gotten married because neither cleary were ready for it or thought it out. Then again these were two young and eager people rushing into something after great sex and travel. How long had they known each other before they said "I Do" again. Yeah. Thought so.

And the truth finally comes out...

Anonymous said...

^ Somehow you've read all of the this and still twisted it around to make Kevin the bad guy.

Britney is a pathological manipulator and has been for years. She's been manipulating everyone around her, not just Kevin. Britney threatened Kevin with divorce many times to get her way, but didn't actually want a divorce. Kevin knew she didn't actually want it which is why he didn't think she would file. But she did. And after that Kevin had enough. That doesn't mean he wasn't upset by the news that Britney filed.

It seems that Kevin really loves Britney. He probably should have called it quits before he did, Britney probably should have received help before she did, Britney's family begged him to stay, and for awhile he did. And now the truth is coming out. Just not the twisted version you posted.

Anonymous said...

How is it twisted? How did I make Kevin sound any worst than Britney? I stated that she was messed up and tried to force him to stay when he obviously wanted out. I said that she clearly was using him for her own twisted selfish reasons (ie being lonely, desperate for love, attention, control, etc). I said that she has clearly not been right for a long time now and yet STILL married Kevin and bought a child into a marriage that was toxic already (JJ). That is not kissing her ass in anyway. She is messed up and Kevin was just one of the many people who went along with it for whatever reasons.

And yes I think Kevin had his own selfish reasons to continue his marriage to Britney. Did he love her? I am sure he did just like I am sure she did, BUT If she was as awful as it is claimed, then why the hell did he say? Why didn't he force her to get the help she needed by calling her out and saying "want a divorce? FINE?" I mean really think about it. The woman you are with is threatening you all the damn time and you want out anyway? You can not be surprised or truly sadden by something you haven't wanted in a while.

Kevin wanted fame. He has it. Kevin wanted a rap career. He was given the opportunity through his marriage and don't even act like he wasn't. Kevin benefitted just as much as Britney did (though clearly through didn't measures).

So exactly how is Kevin and/or Britney the "good guy" in this marriage? Neither is and the facts are indeed coming out.

She needs help. Kevin just needs to take those children and stay away from Britney. I doubt him being around her is good for either one fo them.

Anonymous said...

I agree with a lot of what you said, I just don't know that Kevin's feelings were that black and white. I think he thought about leaving but also loved Britney and wanted to stay too. From interviews just before the divorce, Kevin definitely sounded committed to staying. Then she filed for divorce, and yeah - I think he was upset. If he was trying to fake it you would think he'd actually say something. Instead he just looked upset and couldn't finish his steak and the media told the rest of the story.

But it's done now, and it's good that everything is out in the open, and it's probably good for both Britney and Kevin that the relationship is over. Britney's getting help, and it's not Kevin's job to save her anymore.

Anonymous said...

Also how can he have not "expected the divorce would be this soon" when he was the one who left her and she was begging him to stay. Contradiction much?

When someone is emotionally unstable they tend to contradict themselves alot. It may not make sense to people looking at it from the outside, but in Britney's head it must have, since that was (and still is) her behavior.

it's not only Kevin who she has behaved that way with either, she has treated her own mother that way, Felicia, everyone who loves her she manipulates and threatens.

Kevin didnt sit there and take it, if he did, they would still be together today.

That's not the way Kevin is. He is a strong man and he tries his hardest to do what's right.

But there is only so much people can take.

Anonymous said...

BUT If she was as awful as it is claimed, then why the hell did he say? Why didn't he force her to get the help she needed by calling her out and saying "want a divorce? FINE?"

Who says he didn't try?
In fact who says everyone in her fam ily didnt try?

Reread the letter from Felicia. She indicates that everyone around Britney tried and that you cant force someone to do something they don't want to do.

Britney is back and forth all the time, one day she is gung ho for something, the next day she sabotages it.

Hell even her rehab attempts prove that.

Anonymous said...

How in the hell do you guys know what really happened between kevin and britney? It's pretty easy to read the tabloids and rumors and then put them in your own words. You guys don't know them personally so stop tryig to act like you knew what happen between them.

Anonymous said...

Alison, I see your point and I have to say that over the past fews weeks I have been thinking really hard about something Kevin's lawyer once said 'that Kevin don't think Britney can do the parenting thing on her own and it will all come out'.


I really and trully don't know what to believe, after being a fan of Britney from the start, I recently decided I couldn't anymore, but I have to say that it seem something big is going on with Britney, it seem she need help big time, she's 25 years old with 2 young children, and ever if she wants to go out and have a little fun all mothers know that there is a time to stop and be a parent, not because she has the means to heir other ppl to care for the kids don't mean it's ok for her not to be there, her attutide of late suggest she has issues and I hope she with get help sooner rather than later.

Btw, for the person that said Kevin should have helped her, needs to realize that Kevin might not have known until it was too late how serious whatever is was going on.

Kelly.

Anonymous said...

When people get divorced, they should really consider keeping it private, especially those in the ever critical "public eye." Should they not try to www.DivorceWithoutDishonor.com ???

Anonymous said...

Of course this site is going to be bias. It's called teamkevin.com for heaven's sake! She gave Kevin wealth, a name, and opportunity. What did he do? Attempt at a career and fail miserably? The fight for the rich white ladies kids? The media really blinds your judgement. Britney's life became a fiasco as soon as they started. He's no good luck charm. Look at how he milks this good boy image he's receiving. Do you guys acknowledge his past infidelity?