Thursday, December 07, 2006

Britney's response and some thoughts

It's not too surprising given some of the subtle negative comments towards Britney from Shar, Jason, and Kevin's lawyer's spokesman (weirdly enough), and the not so subtle tabloids who have attacked both Britney and Kevin, that Britney (or probably Larry) would choose to respond:

"It's been so long since I've been out on the town with friends. It's also been 2 years since I've even celebrated my birthday. Every move I make at this point has been magnified more than I expected, and I probably did take my new found freedom a little too far. Anyway, thank God for Victoria's Secrets' new underwear line! I look forward to a new year, new music and a new me.

I'm just getting started....Happy Holiday's everyone!"

It's quite well done, and comes complete with a subtle jab at Kevin. It paints a picture of a cooped up housewife whose husband didn't even take her out for her birthday, something she had to break free from. I don't know quite how accurate that picture is, it's not like we haven't seen Britney in two years, and I'm not sure what happened on her birthday though if I remember the rumors correctly they were making a big deal over Britney being in Kentwood without Kevin at the time. But all is fair in love and divorce I guess, and the subtle jabs have been coming from several angles, unfortunately. I was really hoping things might get more cordial, but this is shaping up to be an ugly, messy, divorce.

I blame Larry for a lot of that. I think the guy is really smart and a great person to manage Britney's career. But a divorce should be handled as separately from that as possible in my opinion, especially when there are children involved. I know it's not possible to completely separate it from the media, but some things can be done. When Reese filed for divorce she asked for joint legal custody as well as physical custody, and her rep asked for respect and privacy. When Pamela Anderson filed for divorce, she posted on her web site - "I'm very concerned with the press on mine and Bob's divorce. I know I have people who want to defend me or people who want to defend Bob, but my children can read. I'd like to resolve this amicably – not fueling fires – and with dignity." While not all four of Kevin's children can read yet, they will be able to in the future. And Kori and Kaleb's older brother and sister definitely can read.

Larry got things off to quite a bang with the way Britney filed for divorce in the first place. That's going to bug me forever. An anonymous poster on this site gave us a "heads up" that Kevin was concerned that Britney's team might be behind some of rumors against him. If this is true I don't know whether Kevin was right or not. On the one hand, the tabloids don't seem to need too much help coming up with stories, and on the other I wouldn't really put it past Larry. I think after the initial smiling shots of Britney on Letterman and at the skating rink, Larry's plan was to hook her up with Paris to give people something to talk about besides the divorce. Britney's and Paris' people talked, and next thing you know they are best friends. If Britney had kept her underwear on and gone out less frequently it might have worked pretty well, but instead damage control was needed once again. Britney pulls out of hosting the Billboards with Paris and stops hanging out with her. The website message appears. Kevin on the other hand has had a couple of public meetings with his lawyer and started appearing in suits, which is also part of a strategy.

I hate this. I'm looking forward to the day when this divorce is settled, and hopefully things can be more co-operative and maybe even friendly between Kevin and Britney. I wish them both well in the future, and mostly I wish those children well.

37 comments:

Anonymous said...

I disagree. I think they are quietly working things out and keeping things neatly out of the press.

I believe they are now both looking at the impressions they've made and are doing things a little wiser.

When you look at pictures of Kevin, he looks like a young professional who cares about his future instead of a "gangsta wannabe looking for a party with homies, or whatever."

We'll see.

Anonymous said...

^ too bad he didn't act like that to begin with, people might have respected him more. too little too late.

Alison said...

Personally I think Kevin's "America's Most Hated" image was mostly just that, an image. Everyone was giving him such a hard time I think he decided to work with it instead of against it. But it's not appropriate anymore when you are fighting for custody, so he switched to a different image. To get beyond the "images" I think we need to listen and read Kevin's interviews, and he's always seemed to be the "family man" he claims he is to me.

Anonymous said...

Then why didn't he ever seek custody of the children he had with Shar? Or at least take a stand with Britney to see them more often?

Alison said...

Kevin said in his MuchMusic interview that he talked to Kori and Kaleb "all the time", so just because he isn't always physically there doesn't mean he isn't there for them. Shar and Kevin were able to work things out amicably. If Shar thinks he's a great guy I don't see why anyone else should have a problem with it.

roxi said...

I think Britney has spent to much time suporting Kevin in front of the media, she focused all her attention on defending him, he was the light of her eyes but he didnt knew how to pay her back all her love. Sure he always was talking about how much he loves her but the question is: "Did he show his love to Britney or what he said were only some simple words ?" ... but in the end it's not his fault, he didnt want to get married and Brit forced him in a certain way, I don't think he's the type of guy who likes to be a husband ... maybe it was cool at first but I think he got bored. I don't understand his demand for sole custody and for Britney to pay a rent ... he should better ask Shar the custody for Kori and Kalab and demand her for the money to raise them if she's always been his number one fan :)

PS: sorry for my English ... I hope you get my point :)

Anonymous said...

Kevin didnt need to battle Shar for the kids cuz they had an understanding...according to stories, he goes and sees them when he can..why go through custody battles if they dont need to?

roxi said...

Yes and according to Shar he see his kids 2 times on month ... why isnt he doing the same thing with the kids he has with Britney ?

Anonymous said...

Family men don't leave their pregnant girlfriend to follow rich hot pop stars across the world. Kevin has always looked like that unless even in Chaotic he was "playing" a character.

If Kevin can explain why he left Britney and the kids to party and work all the time and now suddenly wants sole custody and for Britney to pay all his bills then maybe I can understand him. Right now I can't understand that. He had no problem leaving them when he had to work and had spoke about how great of a mom Britney was even with her mistakes. It's been mentioned if he actually felt the children were in danger he could ask for custody RIGHT NOW, but he hasn't. It's so obviously a plea for more money.

Why is Britney being bashed for not watching the kids when KEVIN sure as hell isn't watch them either?

Anonymous said...

^ I also say GIRLFRIEND since we are in a "Shar is right" mood right now. Unless you only want to believe part of what she says.

Anonymous said...

Kevin said in his MuchMusic interview that he talked to Kori and Kaleb "all the time", so just because he isn't always physically there doesn't mean he isn't there for them. Shar and Kevin were able to work things out amicably. If Shar thinks he's a great guy I don't see why anyone else should have a problem with it.


Then Kevin shouldn't have a problem with talking to his other brood "all the time". Though Britney made an ass out of herself in public (what else is new), I don't see how he has a case. Did he ever contact the Dept. of Child Services? No. Did he ever seek outside intervention to help Britney transition into responsible motherhood? No.

I'm weary of the "Well we don't know for sure because we don't live with them" excuses.

Britney: "Oh, I had to go out because I haven't celebrated my birthday in two years".

Kevin: "Oh I had to go to Vegas two weeks after my wife gave birth. It's how I deal with pressure".


Damn both of these sorry excuses for parenthood. I feel bad for the kids.

Alison said...

Kevin is seeing Sean Preston and Jayden James. They reported him coming from Britney's place not too long ago. They probably have a court arrangement

Alison said...

Plus, we don't know what Kevin and his lawyer are talking about. And Shar was his ex-girlfriend, he was not living with her when he met Britney.

Anonymous said...

Legal posturing. That's what it is called.

Since they are using attornies and it's an adversarial situation, they will start from what is an almost ridiculous stand point and move closer to each other. I doubt we'll ever know all the details.

Lots of folks use mediation, to try and come to an agreement using a facilitator.

I seriously doubt that he really wants to do the 3:00 am feedings every night. I believe they were just both indicating their starting points in this process. If they both really have the children in mind, they will make a strong mutually acceptable agreement.

I think the majority of fans want to see them happy, I think a few treat divorce like a spectator sport and would be very happy if it was held at a coliseum, with gladiators and lions.

Anonymous said...

britney need help she is such a joke no one take her seriously.If she did not have a brithday no one cares it your life no one stop u from having a b day.What a poor excuse for a mother.NO one told her to have kids if she knew she wanted to party .when u have kids they re your responsibility no excuse. I like kevin image i don't see what fake about it people need to grow up the divorce help him realize that.Every thing in life happen for a reason.they need to grow up and do what best for those kids i admire reese u don't see her use her divorce for press like miss white trash does.

Alison said...

I'm certainly hoping for "a strong mutually acceptable agreement". I do agree that there is some legal posturing here - if Britney had asked for joint legal custody instead of sole legal custody, it's probably likely that Kevin would not have filed for sole legal custody either. As for "3:00 am feedings every night", who knows, right now it seems like neither one of them are doing that.

I'd like to think the majority of fans want to see them both happy, but there really has been so much hate directed towards both Kevin and Britney. I don't have as much faith in people's goodwill as you I guess. I've seen situations like this turn ugly and never stop being ugly. But I do hope that's not what's going to happen here.

Anonymous said...

Um, wasn't Britney pictured out with her friends on her last birthday? And then she went out with friends and danced when her and Kevin had that fight. (I think she went home for her 23) She's not going to have birthday's like she use to now that she's a mom and she really needs to come to terms with that. (Where the hell is her family and who's watching her kids, and where is she even living? Wouldn't have been a brighter idea to sell your home once you found a home?)

Why is that Kevin needs to ask for custody right now to prove he really loves his kids? If he knows and has seen that they're safe then why rock the boat? (Britney doing a good enough job at that) Plus, you have think about where he's living. If he's living somewhere he doesn't feel is adequate enough for the kids, then what's the purpose of him taking them? If the court thinks where he lives isn’t adequate then his custody bid is dead in the water. Not to mention if he did go to court and seek custody because he felt his children where in danger, he'd still be vilified, because apparently it's ok for Britney to go out, and party & smoke like she did when she was 18-21, and leave her kids with a nanny, or whomever, all night or till whenever she can get home.

And why the hell shouldn’t Kevin get or ask for spousal support? We women get alimony with almost no problem so why shouldn’t a man? If you’re going to look down on a man for getting spousal support then look down on a woman as well. Times have changed, and now both sexes have possession of the whole head of house/breadwinner role. Britney is clearly the breadwinner in this case and it won’t her to get up off some money. Even Kevin had a normal job or small success in music or acting; he’d still have every right to ask for support. And asking for support doesn’t make you less of a man; but having too much pride not to ask for it just makes you dumb.

This is so tedious, I wish they could just sign the damn papers already and agree to joint custody so that Britney would take herself back into hibernation until her album's done and Larry’s picked her comeback image. Britney really needs to consider going back to that therapist she was seeing back in the day. Regardless of who you “support”, its clear that the girl is not completely sound.

Anonymous said...

wow i like kevin and all but webmaster,your reading this all wrong, its sad how far off you are. i feel sorry for you if this is how you view things.

Anonymous said...

u suck webmaster, u are so awe struck by the genius that is fed-ex...you're pathetic...

Anonymous said...

Damn can we kill all the long paragraphs? What are you guys trying to do, tell a story? You guys that are writing so much don't know jack shit about their relationship. So just shut the hell up.

Anonymous said...

Look, we're all a bunch of f'uglies with no life, so ease up.

We're living our life as spectators, ok? What of it?

If we want to write books, well it's our peragative.

Anonymous said...

Alison,

I like how in your spewl you ragged on Brit and her people for maybe starting rumors. Well sweety it is time to rag on Kevin and his people b/c they are not only fueling rumors they are starting them. The whole "Britney is unstable and in trouble" and how about the direct quote from his lawyer saying something along the lines of "Britney is out at night partying and causing trouble. Kevin, on the other hand, is worried so on and so forth. Oh and she better wstch it as DCFS will be on her case after one phone call." Explain to me how that is not a thinnly vield threat?

Obviously, Kev has done his fair share of partying and no one accuses him of being "in trouble or unstable" AND people NEWSFLASH: DCFS does not involve itself in family matters unless the children are in danger! Partying and flashing your bits is not a concern of DCFS unless it can be proven that her children were neglected. If that is the case, where is the emergency, temporary custody bid on Kevin's part? One can be filed at anytime 24/7 as judges can be wqoke up if the situation, and neglect or unstable parents fit, warrants.

And this coming from someone who wants them both to work their sh*t out and make the kids happy!!

Anonymous said...

^^^Amen. Alison is a one sided bitch.

Alison said...

Did I post anything about DCFS? No, because I thought it likely wasn't true. I also did not say the Britney and her team were the only people playing games here.

Anonymous said...

Alison,

Think you missed the point that person was making. He/she was saying Britney is no where on record saying "Kevin this or Kevin that" while Kevin's lawyers hold and release a bloody statement about his clothes and their meeting AND they ARE making statements to the affect that Britney is unfit and unable to care for their children, while she is not saying anything. They are being more snarky than Brit and her team are.

And for the record...NOONE knows if Kevin truly found out about the divorce via text...its speculation! Being upset with Brit about it when it could turn out to be untrue, is kind of dumb. Kevin already had divorce papers prepared so he obviously wasn't taken of gaurd. Her going out and ice skating could have been blowing off steam, like Kevin does going out to clubs...that is all I think the person was saying.

Anonymous said...

If Britney and Kevin had a court arrangement it would be on file. There is no court arrangement. Britney probably let Kevin see the kids for a few minutes. I have heard of him seeing them twice. For 30 minutes on Thanksgiving and on her birthday. That is not seeing the kids.

Shar says "girlfriend" and since she is a reliable source for Britney news I'm guessing she's even more reliable for Kevin right? I know you don't want to play it like that though.

Anonymous said...

Kevin does not deserve any more money than what is in the prenup. They were only married 2 years. He's not going to be left with nothing. If he's such a star and such a man he should do like Nick did and let the money go.

Anonymous said...

ya know, if Britney woulda kept her panties on from the BEGINNING, none of this would be happening rite now....

The only people who get any sympathy in this whole debauchle: Sean Preston and Jayden James. Everything their parents are doing rite now is being well-documented in the media and will surely have an impact on them in the future. Yeah sure they can't read rite now, but they won't be babies forever...

Anonymous said...

^ I agree. I'm a fan and if she would have worn panties this would not be a big deal and everyone would have forgotten about it. I don't know what the girl was thinking. Maybe one day she'll tell us.

Anonymous said...

If you don't like the long paragraphs scroll the fuck on past them. Everyone's entitled to express an opinion as much as they want on this post and the comments respond that are in response to it. We can't all dumb it down to, so and so sucks, so and so is pathetic, etc.

Anonymous said...

For the record:
A court agreement would not be made public record.

The writer is incorrect. Records of a divorce are public, the details are not.

India said...

Blah, blah, blah blah. So what if Britney didn't have any panties on. Since when did it become a sin for a woman to go pantyless? Give it a rest already. That shouldn't EVEN take an effect on Britney if Kevin, and his lawyer try to use it. Even doctors have defended Britney, and said she doesn't have to wear undies if she doesn't want to. Basically because of the C-Section, and how the rubbing on the panties can cause irritation.

I don't know why people are acting as if Britney is trying to play the victim in this. It is Kevin who is trying to play the victim as if nothing has ever happened. Not Britney. Maybe she didn't get out much in two years. I think those photos the webmaster put up are crap. Britney wasn't saying that she didn't get out. Of course she got out. She was basically saying that she hasn't had "that much fun in two years. Apparently she's talking about her new found freedom, and partying with Paris Hilton.

As for Britney's birthday bash, hell the woman probably didn't party like that. As far as I know, Britney spent the past two years raising Sean. You didn't see her all over magazines getting drunk, wearing no panties, and partying up until recently. This is all just an act Fed-Ex, and his lawyer are putting on. You don't see Britney making comments about how "great" she's doing. Nor do you see her lawyer(Laura Wausser) making press release statements about how good Britney is doing, and how she wants custody of the kids.

All Britney and her lawyer has to say is that she was looking after Fed-Ex's kids with Shar, and not him. Isn't Shar's kids in some type of paid for school? We all know Britney was helping out with that. After all, Brit's money was Kevin's money when they were an item. I do strongly believe that Britney takes well care of her kids. Having a nanny to look after your kids just to lose weight, get back in shape, get your party on(while the kids are most likely asleep seeing as how Britney always partied at night), and then getting back to business Britney is no crime at all whatsoever.

Unless Kevin can really prove that Britney is unfit then he has nothing at all. He will most likely use incidents where Britney drove with Sean on her lap, or when she nearly dropped the baby in public. But Kevin has defended Britney on those incidents. That doesn't matter now. He's fake. He only cleaned up his image to get those two boys. That imbecile sure as hell didn't take sole custody over Shar's kids.

I'm rooting for Britney. At least she's not trying to play "miss innocent". Surely, it may come off that way in her recent letter, but that's not the case at all.

Anonymous said...

So much emotion.

These are just two people trying to make their way in life.

Who are we to judge?

Anonymous said...

We would know if Kevin had any kind of custody agreement in the courts. Don't kind yourself. They might not be public, but we would know. The press is watching both of them and of course the kids. From what we know he saw them once and maybe twice. We would also know if Kevin had wanted emergency custody, which of course he didn't.

Anonymous said...

What is this a bash Alison blog?

Play nice! She's putting a lot of work into this.

Anonymous said...

Alisan, fuck the haters.
Kevin appreciates the support and interest in him.

Anonymous said...

We only pretend that we know as we make up stories along the way.